Few emotional tidal waves rival the joy of expecting a baby, but dealing with a pregnancy loss could cause a devastated family to ask, “What do we do now?”
According to the March of Dimes, there are about 4.4 million confirmed pregnancies in the U.S. every year and 900,000 to 1 million of those pregnancies end in loss.
When a child’s life is cut short, it affects everyone close to the situation in some way. It’s a time for families to grieve and also find ways to preserve the memory of their little one.
A Mother’s Advice
Kevin and Katie Burns, the founders of Forever My Baby You’ll Be, started the organization after they lost their first child, Emma, when she was stillborn in 2014. The group provides information, guidance and support for grieving families after losing an infant.
Katie Burns believes that a loss of this magnitude can be the beginning of the end for some couples who don’t work through the grief, and she gives a reminder that each person has their own process of coping.
“One way that the mom and dad can help each other is to lean on one another,” she says. “Men and women grieve differently and everyone is different, but at the end of the day, your partner is the person in your circle who is experiencing the loss as closely as you are. Even though my husband didn’t want to go to individual counseling and I did, he fully supported my going and vise versa, and we talked about it together. I’d say do as many things together as possible.”
Burns recalls that just knowing others were thinking of her made all the difference. She suggests for close friends and family of a couple who has lost a child, “Make the call....